Often when I talk about minimalism people usually think about the material side of things. Sure you can downsize your home, declutter your closet, and get rid of your credit cards, but there is another realm that can be improved: the intangible side. Think relationships, habits, and thought patterns - these aspects of our life can be decluttered and improved just like the physical aspects can.
In this post, I wanted to address one particular emotional challenge that affects a lot of people: learning to forgive. Learning forgiveness is not easy, especially if you are used to holding grudges against others or yourself or both.
“Without forgiveness life is governed by an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation.” - Roberto Assagioli
As hard it may be, learning how to forgive can dramatically change your life for the better.
Have you ever scarfed down an entire package of chips, biscuits, or lollies? Ate pizza or cake until you felt sick?
Drank more coffee or wine than your body wanted?
Do you remember how you were feeling at the time?
I ask because sometimes we overeat, overdrink, and over indulge to help distract ourselves. from emotional pain. Think about it - have you noticed that sometimes when you overeat you’re not hungry at all? What you are is lonely. Or angry. Or sad. Or resentful. Or frustrated. Or something else.
So what hurt are YOU holding on to?
Tap Into the Power of Forgiveness:
Wouldn’t it be more effective to address your uncomfortable feelings? The best, most thorough, and simplest way to do that is forgiveness.
Forgiving is not easy. If you’ve been allowing your present happiness to be controlled by past pains, I urge you to commit to forgiving.
These simple steps can help:
• Talk to sympathetic friends and family about how you want to forgive. Talking with others is tremendously comforting and you can air out your grievances instead of bottling it all up.
• Write a letter to the person you’d like to forgive. You can decide whether or not you send it.
• See the situation from the other person’s perspective—your own perspective may change.
• Don’t forget to forgive yourself. Sometimes we can be the harshest with ourselves.
• Understand that you are responsible for your own attitude. Don’t let holding a grudge keep you from feeling free, open, and powerful in your own life.
Forgive and watch how easy, calm and joyful life gets.
With love and simplicity,
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