Often when I start something new I start extremely motivated. Sometimes that motivation remains at that high level until I complete the project and I feel amazing. Unfortunately most of the time it doesn't, either something out of my control occurs or I make a mistake and the shortlived perfect run is over.
My reaction in these situations is to give up right then and there. If something doesn't go perfectly I lose all hope that I am going to make it to the end of the project and I end up spiraling steadily into doubting everything I have done and come squarely to the conclusion that I am a failure. After a few weeks or more I start again but the next time around I am too fearful of making a mistake so I end up not making much progress.
I have finally figured out why I react in such an unproductive way when something goes wrong. It's because I believed failing is wrong and that failing is not part of the process of learning or doing something new. After observing myself, I realise that failure is perfectly normal and a real part of doing something new, which means I can see failures as highly probable part of the process of doing something new and different.
The takeaway is to not expect everything to go 100% perfectly. If we expect failure to show up when we are making big changes in our like decluttering, reducing our spending, or sleeping more and there's unexpected difficulty we'll be ready for it instead of seeing it as a personal failure. If you are worried about failing don't worry too much it'll probably happen without you needing to worry about it, so the next time you fail in you endeavours, learn from your mistakes, but know that is part of the process and just keep going.
I have a parting question for you. What would you if you weren't so afraid of failing? Let me know below in the comments. When we are not scared of failing we can do great things.
Until next time,