Moving Out Part 2 - Choosing My Own Path

by Nyamka Bayanmunkh in


We are beings of our time. How our environment affect us can be obvious or quite subliminal. Our families, by definition, are those closest to us. For me, they have a stronger influence than anything else. Not only have they shaped my world view, their opinions have significantly affected my decisions. 

I love my family, dysfunctional as it is. They have the best intentions for me and they give advice based on what they think is true and right. Until recently, I thought that not only did they have the best intentions for me, they also knew what was right for me. Now I know, this can't be true because only one person has the chance to truly know what is right for you and that's you. Others, while they maybe smarter and wiser, only get to see the you that you show them. They only see a part of you and make up the rest in their head. They don't know your innermost thoughts or desires.

An informed decision is a decision that involves all the available information. So someone else would be technically unable to make the right decision for me, as they don't have all the available information. Letting someone else lay out your life plan is a surefire way to end up somewhere you don't really want to be. Moving out of home will give me that extra degree of separation, allowing me to steer my life towards my own preferred path. I am lucky to have a family that cares enough to advise me and along the way I am happy to consult them. However, the decisions will be made by me. In the end I am the one who has to live my life and I have to be happy with the choices  in my life. I know I will make mistakes on the way, but at least they will be my mistakes to learn from. Plus when I fail, I can say "Well at least, I went down swinging!"