Small Things Can Make You Happy

by Nyamka Bayanmunkh in


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Currently, I feel the worst I have ever felt. Death and illness are not things I have experienced firsthand and now I feel raw, sad, and tired. Most days my base feelings are a combination of sadness and lethargy. While the actual feelings are pretty normal, I am noticing a not so good thinking pattern. 

I seem to be falling into an "all or nothing" thinking. This is when I think that everything is bad and nothing good happens. It seems to be playing in a loop almost nonstop

 As I am feeling sad I end up staying at home and feeling even sadder. The problem with this is that I didn't even notice it happening.

As luck would have it, the other day I was jolted out of my negative routine by a small errand. A walk to the library.

I was due to return some books so I went for a walk to the library. When I went out it made such a difference to my mood! Not because something amazing happened but a combination of three small pleasant instances.

The weather was  pleasant. Not windy and not chilly, which is a huge thing if you are from Melbourne.

The weather was like this but not so rural.

The weather was like this but not so rural.

 

Then I saw a peony tree. I love peonies!

The peonies I got last year.

The peonies I got last year.

And then I saw a two cappuccino coloured Airdoodles (A cross between an Airedale and a Poodle, which I don't have a photo of, unfortunately). The combination of these three things made me so happy.

This change of scenery reminded me that the world is still full of lovely things. It made realise that I still have amazing family members, friends and loved ones who love me.

When life gets stressful we can forget to be grateful but this is the best time to be grateful.

When life throws a curveball don’t wait for something big and magical to make you feel happy. Enjoy the small things. Go for a nice walk, admire a nice plant, or enjoy the sunset. 

The best and most useful time to focus on being grateful is when you don’t feel like it.

With love and simplicity,

Nyamka  

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On Experiencing Loss and Difficult Emotions

by Nyamka Bayanmunkh in


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Despite how much simplifying one does life will never be simple. Because life is unpredictable with its timing.  We know that people can get sick, and we know that everyone will die. But we don’t really know when these things will happen. 

In life, we love and we make connections. Then the connections end one way or another which makes us sad and hurt.  We all know this but when it happens it is still sad and shocking

Earlier in the year, my grandfather suffered a stroke. Later on, my mother was hospitalised due to a ruptured aneurysm. Not long after that, my grandfather passed away. And I feel lost, sad, and hurt.

I don’t like feeling sad or hurt. I want to run away from these feelings because they are painful.

I want to feel okay. But I know having these emotions are necessary and good.  Because they are healthy emotions to have in the circumstance. 

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I am writing this post so that we all feel that it is okay to feel our not so okay emotions and not rush past them because they are painful. Right now I am allowing myself to feel these difficult emotions.

One day or another we will experience loss. When it happens allow yourself to feel all the emotions that are going through you. Don’t try to push past them too fast. Give yourself space and time to feel your feelings.

With love and simplicity,

Nyamka